Girl

I read this story as society being the one "talking" to the girl. These are all things that this girl will need to know and do to be useful and valuable, as well as proper. The actual voices could be different (her mother could be the one instructing her how to do her laundry, and the lectures about not becoming a slut might come from a father figure), but this seems to me like a concious list with a title of 'Things I need to do to be accepted'. Society expects her to be this girl.

If she is useful around the house, she has use value, which will probably play the biggest factor on who wants to marry her. If she behaves the way society portrays a "lady", she will have sign-exchange value. Society will make her a commodity if she is able to accomplish all of the things on her list. If not, in the eyes of the contributors of this list, she will be an object of no value.